Raise your hand if you’ve ever tried to sleep train your little one. If you have, you’ll agree with me that it is a trying experience. Now, I know that there are some babies that start sleeping through the night in record time. Based on what I’ve been told, I slept through the night from the moment I was 1 week old. Of course, this put me under the delusion that the same would be with my kids. Just like I hoped I’d drop the last remaining pounds after my pregnancy.
Boy was I wrong!
To put this in perspective, I haven’t slept in roughly three years. There’s a wonderful calculator Here that calculates the amount of lost sleep. This is what it says:
Pretty scary isn’t it? I definitely think so.
It all started with the end of my first pregnancy. Feeling like a whale with massive heartburn meant that there was no way I would be able to sleep through the night. And that is how it started. My first boy is now 2.5 years old, and guess what?? Still wakes up once a night.
Now, I have to give props to my husband who is the one that wakes up with him, while I take our second son, who wakes up around 2 to 3 times per night. The problem is, and I know we may have contributed to our own plight, our oldest loves the couch (but never alone) in the middle of the night, and our youngest sleeps in our bed.
Of course, it all started innocently. Exhaustion pushed us to accommodate whatever they wanted. You want to sleep on the couch? Why not! You can’t sleep alone? Join us in bed! Well, now we’re paying the price. The other problem we’ve added is not allowing them to fall asleep on their own. This means that my husband lays with our oldest in a small toddler bed until he falls asleep, and I sit on the couch with the youngest, holding him until my arms go numb.
By now you have a clear picture of our nightly routine, and are probably shaking your head at us. I don’t blame you one bit. In fact, I blame us because we clearly decided to take the quickest fix, not the most beneficial in the long run.
So, after having a very sobering conversation with our pediatrician, we have to move forward with sleep training. As anything else this is going to be based on trial and error. As well as lots and lots of screaming because how do you explain to a 2.5 year old that they now must sleep on their own when we gave in for such a long time. You can’t spoil a baby, but I firmly stand my ground when I say you can spoil a toddler.
Though we are at the beginning, I’ve realized this isn’t going to be an easy process. I decided to start with the youngest in the hopes that I could get him to fall asleep without being in my arms. What I found was that instead of him taking five or ten minutes to fall asleep, it took him 45 last night. Needless to say, lots of lost time in which I could have completed most of my homework. But, oh well. I can only blame myself.
Now I know that this isn’t going to be an easy process and we haven’t even begun with curbing their nightly wake ups. We still follow the same process, but this weekend is the last straw. I don’t care if I lose two days of sleep, I will look towards the light at the end of the tunnel. One day we will sleep, and then it’s on to potty training. Another fun task.